(Not So) Radical Self Love: 5 Tips to A Happier You

Hey family, welcome to the first installment of Radical Self Love, a bi-weekly series coming to the Deveauted community. Why Radical self love? Well, defines self-love (which we understand as the “Treat yo self!” “I look fantastic today!” “I really like who I am as a person!” movement encouraging women to love who they are) as “an excessive regard for one’s own advantage” or “conceit, vanity.” Um, say what? I’d like you to back that up Taking care of yourself, being body positive, actively trying to grow as a person is not conceited, its vital to our needs as a human being. 

Reading that skewed definition really lit a fire in my belly. There’s too much diet culture, vanity sizing, exclusivity on hair type and color and judgement on the way you dress for it to be vain to just, y’know… Like who you are as a person? So once every two weeks we are going to explore some topics that typically fall into the self love spectrum. I mean, who doesn’t want to be healthier, happier and more mindful? 
The list of tips featured below isn’t supposed to revolutionize your life. That’s not what this series is about- its about learning to make better decisions that serve your interests so you can then serve others. Its about loving yourself for who you are, but not being afraid to change if you don’t. So, without further ado— onto the list! 


There are a whole lot of people in this world who would love to see you fail, don’t be one of them! That means say good-bye to “fat”. Hasta la vista, “I can’t”. See ya never “diet.” Au revoir “I’m not good enough.” Everything you think or say about yourself will either build or diminish your self confidence. The rule I always follow; If you wouldn’t say it to you sibling or best friend, don’t say it to yourself. (Thank you Laverne Cox and Mindy Kaling!) A great way to start this practice is with positive affirmations in the morning, I often do this while brushing my teeth. Simply look in the mirror and think to yourself “I am worthy. I am special. I am beautiful. I am smart. I am kind.” Lather, rinse, repeat until you and your pearly whites are feeling refreshed. This is totally going to feel weird the first time, but trust me a little awkwardness is worth how you feel after!  


We are pretty much just solid water guys; your body has the capacity to filter roughly 0.8 – 1.0L of water an hour! Which means if you are neglecting the suggested 8 glasses a day you are sure to be dehydrated. This can make your skin look dull,  feel fatigued and irritable, give you wicked dry mouth and affect your sleep. Keep on track by carrying around a reusable water bottle with you, it makes the water accessible and gives you a physical reminder to drink up!

Need a little extra motivation? Here’s a flavored water recipe round up from to help you out!



No, really. Turn your phone off, close your laptop, say goodnight to Netflix and just get some shut eye. Chronic lack of sleep can open you up to a whole slew of health problems, including increased risk of heart attack or stroke, high blood pressure and lack of sex drive. Not to mention your body uses the time that you’re catching some Z’s to consolidate memories and regenerate cells— Getting your beauty sleep is no joke. Its recommended that the average adult gets between 7-8 hours of sleep a night, which I know isn’t always practical (especially with those of us rocking a side hustle) so making a conscious effort to try and get those precious moments of sleep we manage is a great step. Experts say to step away form the electronics about an hour before you want to go to bed, giving your brain time to relax a bit (and your eyes!). Try creating a night routine with yourself in that hour time period, I’m sure you even could work in these next few tips into it!


I’m a firm believer that a messy heart is the key of a creative spirit, but it can also cause a lot of mental clutter. Simply tidy up one space for about ten minutes at a time to avoid overwhelm and reap the benefits of cleanlier, more put together space. Try working it into your morning or bedtime routine! I always tidy my makeup up right before bed, so that everything is ready to go in the morning when I need it again. And in the morning I (try) to make my bed- isn’t there something awesome about crawling into a made up bed? Cozy!

Need some help with this tip? Here’s a link to a printable cleaning schedule by DesignSponge.


Is it just me or does a clean, moisturized face make all the difference in the world? Aside from giving me that “Yeah, I’m ready to tackle this day” feeling, it also gives you the perfect base for a full face of makeup. Plus, most face washes have a whole slew of bonuses to help our skin look its best, like reducing redness or exfoliating. Try using a face mask a couple times a week as some serious you time- take that luxurious 15 minutes and relax with a cup of tea and a book or a favorite movie!

I use Lush’s “Don’t Look at Me!” face mask, available only in store, but you can check out some of their other products online here!

 How do you show yourself some love? Let me know in the comments below! And don’t forget to tag #RSLOVE to show me how these tips are working for you! 

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  • Reply Rosalie

    This was a great read, I can’t wait to read your next post ❤️

    October 23, 2016 at 6:41 am
    • Reply Deveauted Daily

      Thank you so much! Can’t wait to grow together!

      October 23, 2016 at 5:59 pm
  • Reply Kate Campbell-Kelly

    This was just a great reminder! Thanks for sharing ❤️

    October 24, 2016 at 7:40 am
    • Reply Becca Deveau

      Glad you liked it! Thank you for reading!

      October 24, 2016 at 11:11 am
  • Reply Jody

    Good tips! Blog looks great and I’m very proud of you, you badass boss lady!!!

    October 24, 2016 at 11:37 am
  • Reply Nico

    Beautiful post. Treating yourself is such an important subject that lots of us don’t take serious enough. Thank you for this post 🙂

    October 30, 2016 at 3:24 am
  • Reply upasna

    Nice self care tips here.

    August 8, 2017 at 4:18 am
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